HIM (while making-out): So what are you thinking about?
ME: How come your dad doesn't live with you?
HIM: ... (look of confusion) THAT's what you're thinking about??
ME: Well, not right at this moment, but when you asked me that question, yea, that was it
HIM: Umm oook.. (now responding to my question) well.. I dunno, what does it matter?
ME: It doesn't really matter, just a random thought that flew through my mind
HIM: hmm (he seems to be thinking about this, he is probably unsatisfied with my answer and still wonders upon my motives for having that thought)
ME: (think to myself) But this is really not important, I was simply answering his question literally. Let's just make out some more. (so I make the move to continue making out...)
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ME (realizing kind of later): He probably wanted to hear something sexy. Well, that didn't happen.
On possibly another date:
HIM (while making-out): mm... what's that thing you just did?
On possibly another date:
HIM (while making-out): mm... what's that thing you just did?
ME: a thing? umm... I don't know... I don't really know what I'm doing
HIM: Yea I can see that...
ME: (think to myself) hmm isn't that the kind of statements people tend to find offensive? oh well, if he still wants to make out, then he must be ok with what i'm doing however confusing... also, most people never say these things, so in a way, that is kinda cool
Analysis & Conclusion: I generally liked the straightforwardness of this guy. He bounced off of my honesty and gave me honesty back, constantly. I'm thinking this is due to us sharing the T. I found him attractive mostly based on that. Nevertheless, as honest as we were with each other we were never really on the same page. Overall, he found me confusing even if I always gave him answers to his questions. I think that the SJs (guardians) tend to want stability, and my P combined with my N makes me very flexible in how I function and see things. The lack of stability to me is exciting, because it keep things fresh and full of surprises, to him it seemed to be more of something that he couldn't really understand and settle down in his mind. Lastly, my main function, Introverted Thinking, makes me generally awkward in all things relating to feeling. I am capable of showing my feelings physically and mentally but I have no idea of how to do so in a way that fits the norms in society. Whenever I try it comes off as cold and fake, which I really hate. And when I do show it, the person may not be aware that it is a sign of affection, because it is done in a very personal sort of way. Therefore, ISTJ (duty-fulfiller) + INTP (thinker) is a very difficult bond to form since ISTJs love rules and standards, and INTPs love to see things in all sorts of ways.
HIM: Yea I can see that...
ME: (think to myself) hmm isn't that the kind of statements people tend to find offensive? oh well, if he still wants to make out, then he must be ok with what i'm doing however confusing... also, most people never say these things, so in a way, that is kinda cool
Analysis & Conclusion: I generally liked the straightforwardness of this guy. He bounced off of my honesty and gave me honesty back, constantly. I'm thinking this is due to us sharing the T. I found him attractive mostly based on that. Nevertheless, as honest as we were with each other we were never really on the same page. Overall, he found me confusing even if I always gave him answers to his questions. I think that the SJs (guardians) tend to want stability, and my P combined with my N makes me very flexible in how I function and see things. The lack of stability to me is exciting, because it keep things fresh and full of surprises, to him it seemed to be more of something that he couldn't really understand and settle down in his mind. Lastly, my main function, Introverted Thinking, makes me generally awkward in all things relating to feeling. I am capable of showing my feelings physically and mentally but I have no idea of how to do so in a way that fits the norms in society. Whenever I try it comes off as cold and fake, which I really hate. And when I do show it, the person may not be aware that it is a sign of affection, because it is done in a very personal sort of way. Therefore, ISTJ (duty-fulfiller) + INTP (thinker) is a very difficult bond to form since ISTJs love rules and standards, and INTPs love to see things in all sorts of ways.
i remember this story well...maybe too well i wanted to make it my own...
ReplyDeletei don't think i've ever dated an ISTJ, or really any SJ types...you know they are our mortal enemies lol according to temperament...but i actually could imagine you guys working...tho i say that all the time, probably even with ESTJ/INFP combinations...