ENTP me + INFP guy
first date:
ME: What quality do you like about me?
HIM: You are essential.
ME: ??? Please explain.
HIM: (incomprehensible stringing together of words not equating an explanation or meaningful sentence, the word “essence” was emphasized several times without a reason why)
ME: I don’t understand.
HIM: You are just essential.
ME: (in my head) I don't think that's even the right way to use that adjective. Essential by itself here means nothing. Does he mean I'm essential to him as in he needs me in his life? But that is not my question. This conversation is useless. Let’s make out in the middle of the street here. (out loud) Let’s make out in the middle of the street here.
last date:
HIM: (a question about my political views)
ME: I guess you can say I’m liberal among the conservatives and conservative among the liberals.
HIM: So who are you around me? Do you feel yourself or like you have to pretend?
ME: (in my head) What? How? There’s no logical connection between what I said and his question. Why does he ask it like there is? (out loud) What do you mean?
HIM: (I actually don’t remember his reply but it was definitely something I found confusing)
ME: (in my head) Wow, this will never work out. It’s like impossible for us to understand each other. Why do we even bother talking? Let’s make out on this train. (out loud) Let’s make out on this train. (in my head) Aww probably for the last time ever. (out loud) Aww.
HIM: What?
ME: Nothing.
conclusion: Clearly an E+T/I+F clash. F people apparently have more trouble understanding me in any meaningful or logical way. And this INFP guy did not communicate in a way that I understand either. The I+F combination did make me feel like the center of his world, which was delightful. But it was one confusing, unintelligible world. We might have worked if I had less a need for outward understanding over inward caring at the time and him less a need for inward caring over outward understanding.
pro: Natural physical flow, immediate attraction.
con: Verbal awkwardness, immediate confusion.
hmmm... interesting analysis
ReplyDeleteI think I also experience the Natural physical flow and immediate attraction with F types. I don't think I have focused on the confusion in conversation as much however being that I am an introvert and I am awkward with communication as it is. The clash I often experience though is still essentially the same, not being understood, it just doesn't manifest itself verbally so much but more in actions in my case, as the F guy tends to idealize me and see me in a way that I do not associate myself with.
natural physical flow is such a subjective quality in relationships...the NP in us value this...you probably more since you're also an I, pushing you more toward subjectivity...
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