INFJ + INTP

The conclusion I always reach is that we're stuck in fantasy loops. And this is what's been happening so far:

INFJ guy seeks out INTP girl. Constantly.
(from here on I will just say 'Guy' and 'Girl')
Girl likes the attention. A lot.
Guy and girl have many obscure tastes in common.
Girl makes guy laugh often.
Guy makes girl laugh at times.
Girl likes a lot of physical contact with guy.
Guy is always traveling.
Girl likes that. It makes things more interesting.
Guy is very expressive of his feelings. He says things like 'i miss you' a lot. Or, 'come over.' Girl likes this.
Girl reciprocates.
Girl never knows how to start anything. When she does, she pretty much copies the patterns of Guy, and feels somewhat uneasy/fake about it, but doesn't know of any better choices. Girl likes guy and would like for this to continue for as long as it can. Girl thinks it is surprising it's still going on.
Girl finds guy to be very sensitive. She makes every effort to not offend him or make him feel unwanted.
Girl finds this somewhat tiring. She wishes sometimes she could just be blunt. She sometimes doesn't want to reciprocate the expressions of care because she's not feeling it at that moment, though she appreciates these expressions. However, if she doesn't reciprocate she wonders if that will mean to Guy that she's not interested. She wonders if this should go on when it takes so much effort.
Moreover, Girl doesn't find that she is seen very often. Only when she is blatantly obvious about who she is. She starts to crave understanding. She finds she can only give this to herself. Guy doesn't seem to get it. Moreover, Guy seems to like Girl a lot because of what Girl means to him. This meaning is something that Girl suspects to not really be like her. Girl suspects that Guy wants to validate his own existence through his interactions with Girl. This would be fine, but, Girl would also like her existence validated. The expressions of care seem to be devoid of something. And Girl wonders if there is a time when content fills the void. Or if by prolonging the situation, we are simply deepening the void. Girl suspects that content was supposed to be there to begin with. Girl gets angry at not knowing what she has done, what she is doing, or what she will do.
Girl wonders if it really matters anyway. Guy is probably not thinking about it.
It's just, I guess, Girl wants to make sense of things. And these things never seem to make sense.